25 Sex Fantasies for Women That Aren't Hard to Make Real

In the era of the popularity of Fifty Shades of Grey, a wide variety of sexual fantasies are being discussed more and more openly and are even increasingly accepted by society – or at least recognized as a normal part of intimate life with a partner. Taboos are breaking down, sexual norms are changing, and today we speak more openly than ever about what we want and what turns us on.

In this article, we'll talk about some of the most desired and widespread sexual fantasies among women. This TOP 25 list was compiled from surveys and studies involving women of different ages and social backgrounds.

Oral sex

Giving and receiving are at the heart of sexual interaction. Although oral sex does not always follow the same give-and-take pattern as intercourse, it can bring extraordinary pleasure. It can also be viewed as an easy way to explore dominance.

Oral caresses can make a woman feel like a pampered queen and a divine dessert. Of course, pleasure can be mutual, but sometimes it is worth giving a woman the chance to focus entirely on her own sensations. There is a reason oral sex is often associated with intense sensual pleasure.

Sex in public

The thrill, the excitement of breaking a rule – that's what fantasies about sex in public or semi-public places are about. Dark alleys, public baths, restrooms and even movie theaters are classic examples.

The risk of being caught can create a special adrenaline rush, as can curiosity about the forbidden and exhibitionism. Just keep in mind that public sex has real risks and can be illegal if it involves unsuspecting bystanders or attracts police attention.

Sex in an unusual place

For many people, familiar places are comfortable. But sometimes unusual circumstances and a new location are exactly what can heat up passion and bring fresh sensations.

It does not have to be a public place. You can make love in a hotel room, a private sauna, or simply somewhere unusual in your own home. The important thing is not to forget about safety.

Permitted infidelity

Cheating. You can love your partner deeply and still crave something new – sensations that feel like an electric charge. It does not necessarily have to mean physical infidelity: it can be flirting, virtual sex or even fantasies alone.

The fear of being caught can add a special edge. If what interests you is physical intimacy with someone else while your relationship is still important to you, it may be worth discussing an open relationship or swinging with your partner.

Pegging

The missionary position may be enough for some people, while others want more. Pegging is anal sex in a heterosexual couple with a role reversal: the woman wears a strap-on and takes the penetrating role. It can be a unique way to turn your usual view of sex upside down and move away from a vanilla scenario.

Keep in mind that this fantasy is not for everyone. If you are sure it is what you want, talk carefully with your partner and make sure they are comfortable with the idea. And don't forget hygiene and preparation for anal sex.

Being dominated

The Fifty Shades of Grey books and films helped make fantasies about dominance far more mainstream. One study cited in the original article claimed that more than 65 percent of women had fantasies about being dominated.

This fantasy allows an enormous number of scenarios: gentle dominance as part of foreplay, or full BDSM involving humiliation and intense pain mixed with pleasure. The boundaries and desires depend on you and your partner.

Dominating a partner

Although women's fantasies about controlling a partner may be less common than fantasies about submission, they certainly exist. The original article cites research suggesting that around 47 percent of women had experienced such fantasies.

It can be worth exploring if both partners want it. Female dominance can reveal previously unknown ways of giving and receiving pleasure, especially in a society where women are often denied power both inside and outside the bedroom.

Bondage and restraint

The attraction can center on all kinds of things, including accessories associated with submission – for example, Christian Grey's tie used for bondage – or elaborate scenarios involving restraints, handcuffs and physical or psychological limitation.

Being unable to move and feeling completely helpless before a trusted partner can be associated with pleasure, pain, or both. Before acting out a restraint or submission scenario, discuss each person's wishes and limits so that the experience stays consensual and does not lead to unpleasant surprises.

Blindfolding

Blindfolded intimacy is one of the simplest ways to explore each other's bodies without visual distractions. When a partner is blindfolded, they remain in suspense about what the other person is going to do. If you are the one who can see, you can keep greater control and preserve an element of mystery.

You can also add noise-canceling headphones to your pleasure accessories, or consensually restrain the hands or legs. Removing sight or sound can make other sensations feel much more intense.

Exhibitionism

In our society this word often sounds more judgmental than exciting. But at its core, the fantasy can simply involve wanting to show off your body and enjoying the knowledge that the person watching is aroused by you.

It might mean being fully naked on camera, or teasing your partner in a restaurant by discreetly revealing that you are not wearing underwear. You can also caress yourself in front of your partner to add even more passion.

Voyeurism

There is another side to exhibitionism: voyeurism – watching. Observing can create extremely strong arousal. It may be a fantasy about seeing a couple having sex through a window, watching someone in a fitting room, viewing consensual online intimate shows, or observing a BDSM scene.

You can distribute roles within a couple or consensually watch someone together. After prolonged, intense arousal, the sex afterward can feel unforgettable.

Sex with a celebrity

The original article says that almost 52 percent of women had fantasized about this. There is an obvious reason: celebrities are often presented as attractive, sexual, unusual and far removed from everyday reality. It can be easier to imagine intimacy with a favorite movie star or singer than with a random stranger or someone you actually know.

The fantasy can become even more exciting because of the idea that the celebrity chooses you rather than hundreds of other fans. It is unlikely to become reality, but it can always inspire a role-playing game.

Sex with an ex

Returning to the past may not be the best idea in real life, but the pleasure you once had can remain unforgettable. An ex may have known ways of understanding and stimulating your body that felt unique.

In fantasy, you can return to those memories without difficulty. In real life, however, make sure that doing so will not pull you back into emotional drama.

Sex with a stranger

For many people, the anonymity of a one-night stand is exactly what makes it attractive. It can be intensely exciting to imagine that your body and sexuality alone are what attract someone because they know nothing else about you. And after passionate sex, you can simply get dressed and act as though nothing happened.

Sex with a professor

Turning this fantasy into reality can be difficult and inappropriate in many real-world situations. Nevertheless, being a teacher's favorite is a common fantasy even among people who finished school or university long ago. Professors can be imagined as intelligent, accomplished and experienced – a strict figure in a tweed jacket who excites both the mind and the body.

Role play

If you want to free your playful and naughty inner self, imagining yourself in different roles can help. It is similar to the professor fantasy. Does the idea of a nurse and patient turn you on? What about a boss and secretary? Or other adult character dynamics? The variety is almost limitless.

Cosplay

Costumes are an ideal way to create a provocative game. They can make you feel playful and sexy. You might become a super-powered character such as Wonder Woman or Catwoman, or someone more realistic such as Lara Croft, a famous star or public figure. For a while, you can feel like somebody else and allow yourself to behave differently.

Anal sex

Unfortunately, anal sex is still often judged by society. People may call it “dirty” or say it is not something a “good girl” should do. But you do not have to accept those judgments. Consenting adults can enjoy anal sex in real life or simply keep it as part of their fantasies.

Group sex

Sex with three, four or more people can feel like a breath of fresh air when sex has become repetitive. That may explain why, according to the figures cited in the original article, about 57 percent of women had fantasized about group sex. In many cases it may be easier in fantasy than in reality because, in your imagination, nobody feels neglected or embarrassed. If you genuinely want to explore it in real life, you can look for like-minded consenting adults and discuss boundaries carefully.

Romantic sex

Everyone can define romantic sex differently. For one person it means rose petals, champagne and tender eye contact. For another, it may mean a partner who knows how to dominate gently while whispering words that drive them wild. Whatever the scenario, the foundation of this fantasy is usually a very strong emotional connection with the partner.

Lesbian sex

Interestingly, this fantasy can also occur among women who identify as completely heterosexual. Part of its appeal may be the feeling of breaking a social taboo – and forbidden things can be especially exciting. Lesbian sex may also be appealing because it can focus on types of stimulation many women enjoy, such as oral sex, fingers and other forms of clitoral stimulation. Wanting sex with a woman can reflect genuine attraction, or it may simply remain a forbidden and therefore exciting fantasy.

Taboo themes

One of the distinctive things about fantasies is that they do not have to match your everyday values, beliefs or social norms. People can imagine scenarios they would never want to act out in real life. The original article notes, for example, that taboo themes have often ranked highly in pornography searches. The important distinction is between fantasy and real-world behavior: any real sexual activity must involve consenting adults and respect the law and personal boundaries.

Sex with someone younger

Some women fantasize about a younger adult partner because they associate youth with greater sexual energy, enthusiasm and inexperience. The feeling of doing something unusual or “forbidden” can also add intensity to the fantasy. But what feels attractive in imagination may be much less appealing in everyday life – for example, a woman over thirty may not really want to wait around for her 19-year-old partner to come home from clubs.

Sex with someone older

An experienced older partner may be imagined as someone who knows how to give pleasure and can teach you new things. A protective manner or a touch of confident detachment can suddenly give way to a look filled with desire and appreciation during sex with a younger, passionate partner.

Sensual massage

Erotic massage is described in the original article as a popular pornography search topic, especially among women. Perhaps relaxation and slow, gentle movements help prepare the female body and mind for pleasure. Sex educator Emily Nagoski has written about how stress can physiologically interfere with arousal and orgasm. When you are relaxed, your skin is warm and slippery with massage oil and your body feels ready, it can become much easier to sink into sensual pleasure.

Whatever your fantasies are, remember that private thoughts do not define you as a person. If a fantasy contradicts who you are in everyday life, that can still be normal. Fantasies are fantasies, including fantasies about taboo themes. But if you decide to bring any fantasy into real life, think carefully about whether you are ready for the consequences and make sure everyone involved is a consenting adult.