Who Will You Be Tonight? A Little About the Benefits of Sexual Role Play...

Have you noticed that our society seems to have split into two opposing camps? The first are enthusiastic supporters of sexual role play; the second are fierce opponents. Some can't imagine life without role-playing games, while others call them depravity, vulgarity and even a sexual deviation.

And for some reason there are very few people who understand the real purpose and role of sexual games in a couple's intimate life: to add variety, give a partner a different kind of pleasure, reveal hidden sides of your personality and enjoy yourselves as much as possible.

We are sure that after reading this article there will be at least two more people who understand it.

So what is sexual role play really, when might a couple need it, and why?

The answer is simple: deep down, all of us are children and we like to play. A sexual role-playing game is a form of interaction with a partner where you can play, try a new character and take on a social – or fantastic, fictional – role that for one reason or another you cannot “play” in ordinary life.

Who will it be?

A strict boss and an attractive secretary?

A rough police officer and an offender?

A fairy from a cartoon you loved as a child?

Who knows? It depends entirely on your fantasies and desires.

And we assure you: there is nothing shameful or abnormal about it.

On the contrary, it is great when partners dream, fantasize and, more importantly, share those fantasies and easily get into character. This is not about shame; it is about openness, trust and a willingness to discover each other.

Why do partners turn to role play at one stage or another?

There is a common belief that it happens because of a lack of sensations, boredom or monotony.

At first it may seem that way. Repetition can drain the excitement from even the most passionate sex – and from relationships too.

But if your partner suggests role play and talks about fantasies, it does not necessarily mean they are grasping at a last straw to save your sex life. Quite possibly, they trust you enough to tell you about their most private fantasies.

So enjoy the anticipation when suggestions like this appear, and don't be afraid to suggest something yourself. By the way, we wrote here about HOW to talk to your partner about the most intimate things.

Because sexual role play:

1. 1. Brings new colors into sex.
2. 2. Lets partners try things they did not allow themselves before – positions, toys, even new words and ways of addressing each other.
3. 3. Gives new kinds of pleasure that may once have felt inaccessible.
4. 4. Helps both partners loosen up. After a truly good role-playing experience, your relationship may not feel quite the same again.

What should you do to make a sexual role-playing game unforgettable?

First, understand that a sex game is not simply buying a nurse costume or a Superman costume in a sex shop – although those can certainly help.

A game has a scenario, and the action begins long before the bedroom. One partner takes the role of organizer. It does not matter whether that organizer's character is dominant or submissive.

The organizer's main tasks are to:

• think through the scenario in detail,
• prepare all necessary props and accessories,
• guide the process and keep the partner moving in the right direction,
• bring the game to its conclusion.

It can be especially exciting to start the game unexpectedly. Of course, you and your partner should have discussed and agreed in advance that the game will happen. You should talk through all the details, what is and is not acceptable, and each other's desires and taboos.

But the exact start time can be a surprise for your partner.

Begin with a text message or phone call from the character you are about to become.

And remember: from that moment on, you are your character. The game has started. Try not to pause or step out of the role until the finale.

By the time you meet your partner, everything should be ready. Most importantly, YOU should be ready – in the right costume and with the right accessories. The setting should not need last-minute work.

If your partner is tense or confused at first, cannot “get into character,” and says the situation is unexpected, help them relax – without dropping your own role for five minutes. Give them a little time, and your example can help them join the game.

This kind of full immersion creates another sexual reality. Some people like role play precisely because it lets them openly express secret desires they used to hide because they were ashamed, embarrassed or afraid of frightening their partner. In the game, it feels as if someone else is speaking and acting. It is only a role.

An important point! Plan the ending of the game – the moment when it is considered finished and you both leave your roles. Once the game is over, discuss all the details: what you liked and what put you off. That analysis will help you avoid mistakes next time.

TOP 5 mistakes to avoid in adult role-playing games:
(forewarned is forearmed)

1. 1. Don't laugh! At first, many people trying role play for the first time react to a partner's costume or lines with laughter. This usually happens because they have not fully immersed themselves in the role. Remember how important the moment is and how easy it is to hurt your partner. Tact matters.
2. 2. Don't insist or force it. Dragging a reluctant partner into the game is an easy way to make it fail. Be creative and spark their interest. The more willingly your partner joins, the more likely both of you are to enjoy the result.
3. 3. Don't make the scenario too rigid. Yes, you need a scenario – we've said so throughout the article. But leave room for surprise and improvisation. Pay attention to your partner's mood and desire and follow them. Let the script be only the skeleton of your game.
4. 4. Don't forget safety and practical details. If you are playing a medieval lord and a maid, that does not mean you should forget condoms, lubricants or tissues simply because those things did not exist in your fictional era. Make sure the important practical items are close at hand.
5. 5. Don't switch roles or drop out of character mid-game. If you suddenly desperately want to try your partner's role, resist doing it right away. Create a second game for that. This one, like a good movie, deserves its own strong and beautiful ending.

Another format for an adult game.

Alternatively, you and your partner can create the scenario and prepare everything together, including agreeing on the exact starting time. In other words, there are two organizers. Which option feels closer to you? That's your choice.

Either way, you can count on us and our range. Great role-playing costumes – both for men and for women – plus accessories and toys that fit your scenario can all be found and purchased at Danni.

Don't know where to begin? Here are the TOP 10 most popular role-playing scenarios:

1. 1. Mistress and slave (lord and maid).
2. 2. Doctor and patient, or nurse and patient.
3. 3. Police officer and offender (or policewoman and criminal).
4. 4. A consensual “attacker and victim” fantasy.
5. 5. Stripper or sex worker and client.
6. 6. Teacher and schoolgirl character (or vice versa; adult participants only).
7. 7. A movie audition: director and actress.
8. 8. Boss and subordinate (a secretary is one option).
9. 9. Celebrity – actor or singer – and fan (or vice versa).
10. 10. Switch roles? One of the most desired and at the same time most taboo scenarios.

And there are also firefighters, nuns, sailors...

Taking care of your orgasms,

Danni...