8 Questions About Anal Sex That Everyone Wonders About
Or almost everyone.
1. Is this even normal?!
Why not? In our view, anything that gives both partners pleasure and is consensual is completely normal. More than that – it can be great and orgasmic.
Often, the fiercest opponents of anal sex object to it for two reasons:
1 – they had a painful or negative experience, physically or emotionally,
2 – attitudes learned from childhood prevent them from seeing anal sex as something that can bring pleasure.
If neither of those describes you, you can explore it and enjoy it – read the article to the end to learn HOW to make anal sex more comfortable and pleasurable.
2. How do you make a woman agree to THAT?
You don't.
Not at all.
Anal sex, like any other kind of sex, is first and foremost about the MUTUAL desire of both partners. You cannot force anyone. Forget persuasion, threats or phrases such as “if you love me, you'll agree.” If you really want to try it and believe you can make it pleasurable for your partner, take another approach – forgive the pun – and spark her interest.
How can you get a woman interested in anal sex?
Many women love foreplay. During sexual play, gently caress and stimulate the area around the anus. Do it softly, without pressure, and over time. This can help her get used to the sensations and become curious. If she genuinely enjoys it, she may eventually guide you THERE herself.
3. How do you prepare for anal sex?
You've probably already heard about an enema or adjusting your diet before anal sex. But preparation can begin long before intercourse itself, with the kinds of games we mentioned above. They can also build trust between partners.
The receiving partner can also prepare on her own. A few simple suggestions:
- in the shower, you can carefully try inserting a lubricated finger into the anus, gradually getting used to the sensation of penetration. Do it slowly and only when relaxed.
- you can buy an anal plug or anal beads. These toys can help you become familiar with the sensations and understand what to expect. That can reduce tension or stiffness during intimacy.
- learn which positions are most comfortable and pleasant for anal sex – there is more than one.
How much time should you spend preparing? As much as your body and comfort require.
4. Is anal sex really very painful?
Let's think logically. If it were unbearably painful for everyone, so many consenting adults around the world would not choose to do it.
The original article cites Kinsey Institute figures suggesting that during their lifetime about 40% of men and 35% of women had tried anal sex at least once.
Pain is a signal that something may be wrong:
- you are NOT relaxed enough,
- you are NOT being gentle enough (forget the exaggerated pace shown in porn),
- you are NOT aroused enough,
- you have NOT used enough lubricant.
Addressing these factors can change the sensations significantly. If pain persists, stop rather than pushing through it.
5. Are there special rules for anal sex?
Yes. The article sums them up as THREE DON'TS:
- DON'T rush,
- DON'T skimp on lubricant,
- DON'T alternate directly between anal and vaginal penetration without changing condoms or cleaning appropriately.
The rule about not rushing comes first for a reason. In anal sex – as in many kinds of sex – arousal and relaxation are closely connected to readiness.
When someone is highly aroused, fears and tension may become less intrusive. Relaxation matters, so plan for plenty of foreplay.
About lubricant.
The anus does not produce natural lubrication for penetration. Penetrating it dry can cause pain and injury to either partner. Use plenty of lubricant, and if you don't know which type to choose, this blog article can help.
There are lubricants designed specifically for anal sex, and those are often a good first choice. Also pay attention to compatibility with condoms and toy materials.
Alternating directly between vaginal and anal penetration, as sometimes shown in pornography, is not a good hygiene practice. The vaginal and rectal microbiomes are different, and transferring bacteria from one area to the other can contribute to irritation or infection. Use a new condom and clean toys before moving from anal to vaginal use.
6. Can you become pregnant from anal sex?
Anal sex itself does not place sperm in the vagina. Pregnancy is still theoretically possible if semen gets onto or near the vaginal opening, so contraception may still matter depending on what happens during sex.
7. If pregnancy isn't the main risk, can you skip the condom?
No. Condoms are strongly recommended for anal sex for several practical reasons.
First, the rectum contains bacteria that can enter tiny breaks in the skin of the penis. Likewise, microorganisms from the penis can enter microscopic injuries in the anal tissue. A condom creates a barrier that reduces these risks.
Remember that condoms are used not only to prevent pregnancy but also to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infections.
8. Do you need special toys and anal stimulators if anal sex is already such a big event on its own?
You certainly can use them. There are plenty of toys to explore.
Anal toys can help partners warm up, increase arousal and gradually get used to anal stimulation. They can also be visually playful additions – think of plugs with decorative tails or gems.
Today's choice is not limited to anal beads:
- - anal plugs,
- - anal vibrators,
- - vibrators and attachments for double stimulation,
- - plugs with tails, gems and other decorative elements,
- - vibrating plugs and beads,
- - remote-controlled anal toys, and more.
There are options for many tastes, literally and figuratively.
And remember: anything you decide to try should be consensual, comfortable and pleasurable for everyone involved.
Taking care of your orgasms,
Danni...